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This book was long overdue for me to read. I’ve been wanting to read it since I finished reading another one of Rachel Hollis’s books, Girl Wash Your Face. For some reason, it never happened last year. Now that I have read the book, I believe there is no better book I could have started 2020 with. I gained tons of insight from this book. It’s only fitting that I do a Girl Stop Apologizing review so that you all can get a taste of this fire-in-your-soul, action-taking, dream-chasing book.
I’ll be sharing my thoughts and insights from my experience reading this book. I’d highly recommend that you get the book for yourself. That way you can experience your own takeaways from this book to apply to your life. With that being said, here is my Girl Stop Apologizing, by Rachel Hollis, review.
Don’t Fit Your Dream Around Your Schedule, Fit Your Schedule Around Your Dream
What’s that saying, everything worth having doesn’t come easy? Trying to accomplish a goal is hard. It requires focus, determination, and a lot of time it requires sacrifice, sacrifice of your time that is. Life gets busy between work, school, kids, relationships, Odds are you juggle more than one of these.
If we want to work towards a goal we are adding something else into the time equation. How do we find the time to add working our dreams in an already packed schedule? I think Rachel says it best when she says, “Don’t wait to have time, start planning to make time.”
In Girl Stop Apologizing Rachel Hollis advises us to work on our dream for a couple hours a day. Make these hours important. Think of them as meetings or appointments you can’t miss. We can’t go through our day and “get to it when we get to it.” We have to be proactive in becoming the best version of ourselves by accomplishing our goals. Moving forward, this is definitely a habit I’m going to add to my life.
Most Of Our Excuses Require Some Inside Work To Get Rid Of Them
Before starting to read personal development books, I had no idea the power that we all have inside of us. I now know that our mind believes what we tell it. However, it still amazes me how many different areas of our lives can be transformed if we ditched the negative thoughts and believe in ourselves. In the Excuses To Let Go Of section in the book, many of the excuses require some inside work to completely let them go.
This is easier said than done for me. When it comes to accepting and loving myself I struggle so much. When you struggle in those areas it’s easy for other negative thoughts and beliefs to become your truth. After reading this book I’m more inspired than ever to work on having a positive mindset. In fact, tomorrow you’ll be able to go on that journey with me. So be sure to come back to the blog or follow me on social media for a special announcement.
You Can’t Go Down Multiple Paths At The Same Time, Choose Your Focus
This was a hard one for me to grasp. There are so many areas of my life that I want to improve and I’ve got tons of goals that would help me get there. So the idea that it’s best to just focus on one goal was something I never considered. How am I supposed to choose just one goal? I thought it would be impossible but after much reflection I finally decided on one to focus on. That goal is losing 140 pounds. Keep reading to find out my plan for reaching this goal.
After reading the book, and doing the Start Today practice in my journal every morning, I’m starting to see the benefit of focusing on one goal. By focusing on one goal, odds are I’ll be able to accomplish it quicker than I would if I pursue multiple goals. Learning this is, and putting it into practice, is going to be life-changing, I can tell.
Get Rid Of The To-Dos And Embrace Results
You either love to hate them or hate to love them. Whatever end you are on, throw the list out. Girl Stop Apologizing has given us a new list to make, a results list. Instead of asking “what do I need to do today?” Let’s start asking “what will I accomplish today?’
As satisfying as it is to cross off a task you just completed, it’s no fun at all to see a list full of uncrossed tasks at the end of the day. I haven’t started making results lists yet but I’m starting it now. I believe this will get my mind more focused on the important tasks of my day, which will, in turn, help me accomplish more.
Bonus Takeaway/Activity: My personal roadmap
If you haven’t realized that this book is action-packed full of takeaways, here is one more for you, and it’s an interactive one. In Girl Stop Apologizing Rachel Hollis shared her roadmap for her goal of becoming a New-York Times Best Seller. Not only does she show the readers, she also breaks down the process of creating it. That way we can make a roadmap of our own.
The gist of this roadmap is to choose one goal to place at the “finish line” then work backwards figuring out what needs to happen to keep you on track. I usually never do the activities mentioned in some books, or I put them off until I eventually forget about them. With this book and activity, I went straight to work. At the time I’m writing this I’m still working on my roadmap but I’ll share it on my Instagram Stories when I finish it.
As you can see, this was a life-changing book for me. I hope that you enjoyed this Girl Stop Apologizing review, and I hope you will check it out for yourself. If you do let me know what you think! Be sure to share this with a friend you want to read Girl Stop Apologizing with.